Posted by: wktd on March 13th, 2010 Filled in: enart.cgkq.com
My fiance got in trouble when he was a teen mostly because my mom set him up. after 2 yrs on probation not being able to afford household bills and his fines also. He flattened his sentence and violated his probation so he could just serve his time and get it over with. meaning he wouldnt be on anymore probation or have to pay any fines once he is released. So we can move on with our lives. We have a son the will be 1 tomorrow. And he has been gone since july 28th. His release date is Jan 12th. I miss him so much and im living with his family because we lost everything when he decided to flatten his sentence, well the stuff belonged to my mom anyways but she had to sell it cus she had no where to move it, being a semi driver and living out of her semi. How do i cope with the next 3 months of him being gone. Its hard being in this house with his little brothers and taking care of our son alone. Not to mention im 6 month preg with a baby thats not my fiances, i got preg by the guy who raped me, and i have to cope with that alone, it will go for adoption. But how do i cope with all this, theres no support in this house, his family doesnt understand or even care how i feel. If i had somewhere else to stay i would but i dont. My mom is the only one in this state that hasnt disowned me and she lives in her semi. My dad lives 16 hours away and i cant go there mainly for lack of money plus my son was born with a birth deftect and has to have many surgerys throughout his life. I have 3 months left what can i do to keep myself content. and pls dont say well you need to leave him, or to go find another guy while hes gone, cus i just cant do that, I love him to death and i would never cheat on him, and i cant leave him either. pls help maybe somebody for me to talk to.God, you've got your own soap opera going on, girl!! Your guy doesn't necessarily get out of his fines if they were deemed as restitution and he needs to settle up on them if that's the case or else he'll still be in violation. Too bad about the baby and your pregnancy, but you put yourself in both of those situations. I think you need some help from your local government if there's no real family help there to draw on. Go get all the info you need to start drawing welfare and get the child you already have into a medical program with the state. You could have aborted the rape pregnancy with no problem if you wanted, so I can't see why you allowed it to come to term, so no sympathy there. If you really think this guy of yours is woth holding on to, then do so. But get your life straight and make you and the child the highest priority if this boyfriend of yours is a real sleeze and put him on the back burner for now and until you and the child are being taken care of.I know it is hard but you will have to be strong. Learn to love yourself to death. You also have a child to take care of and one one the way. you need to talk to someone at a county office who can probably help you get in a program. You know sometimes, you have to take a step backward before you can move forward. If this baby is not going to be a part of your family and it is the result of rape you know there were options. Right now you need to get a place to live for you and your son. Be grateful that you have a roof over your head now. Just try to get a place of your own. Do not act like anyone owes you anything because the problems you have did not come from any of them. These are just things that happened in your life. Now you have to take time to change those things so you can go on with your life. You need to think about who you are marrying, and why. Sometimes people take the easy way out because they are not mature enough to handle situations,and then you have no one. You MUST learn to stand on your own two feet. You have a child who needs a strong mother. A dependable mother. If you live in the united states there are programs and government assistance for you and your child/children. Not for felons but for law abiding citizens who are in need of temporary assistance until they can get childcare and get a job. Sometimes you might have to go into a shelter. You may qualify to go into a battered women's shelter because of the rape. They will help you but you have to take your id and any information that can help them identify you,and your child. Do not just sit and wait for him to get out of jail get yourself going before you are too far along to move around much. If you get assistance you can help yourself do better.Good luck and Be Blessed. Well I think you should just find someone else!
It might be better that way and you COULD have
way more fun that way!
(:Although I feel bad for your situation and have sympathy for you, I'm giving you the "Mom" talk. He made his choices and he is doing what he has to do to make restitution. He will be out in January. Put your big girl panties on and deal with it. There is always someone who is in a worse position than you. Be glad you aren't one of many women who's husband or fiancee are in Iraq and won't be home for 18 months. Find ways to keep yourself busy. Start planning what you will do to better your situation. Start a budget. Start applying for aid so that you can help support your children. In other words, get your ducks in a row. Time will fly and you will be ahead of the game.Did you make this stuff up? Feel sorry for you. :( Take it easy, try to make yourself happy by doing those things that you think it will be make you feel happy. Love yourself. Say is easy then done, always tell yourself life have to move on........ You are never alone, there were others worst then you. Be happy don't worry...
Take care....That's nothing, just stay in contact send him cards, letters and pictures all of the time, just give him love and security, it'll go past fast, my fiance has been locked up for 4 years I am in agony, he is coming home soon, just stay in there if you really love himFirst yo need to pray about everything that's going on and just try to do your best of what you got as long as your son is taken care of the rest really doesn't matter. The 3 mths will go by fast just stop focusing on that and try to be happy. Just remember out of something bad always comes good things. Stay positive!get a new man, why would u want a jail bum loser??#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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